As a mom, you’re wired to put your children before yourself. But like they tell you on airplanes, you can’t help anyone with their oxygen mask until you put your own on.In those months of being alone, I found my own happiness.When my ex-husband and I separated, I thought I’d be single for the rest of my life.I planned on keeping my married name, raising my 2-month-old daughter alone, and living out some kind of disservice.I am 41, have never been married and don’t have any kids.At this very juncture of my life, I have no burning desire to have kids. From sleep issues to tantrums to potty training, you have to tackle every arduous aspect of parenting on your own.
If you like it you decide to keep it, or you purchase it. For many of us test-driving a new car is fun and exciting. Suddenly test-driving is not all about having fun and simply seeing if you like someone, instead you are forced to look beyond aesthetics and thrill, and think long term.So, we’ve been together for three months now and everything is going very, very well. And believe me, I am no angel and have plenty of my own issues.We have tons of shared interests, practice yoga together and, yes, go to all of the NYC organic restaurants. What is even more remarkable is that we have never had one argument since we started spending time together. The Situation She is divorced (well, right on the verge of it becoming legal and having all the papers signed) and has two very young children.Even if you fit the description of single mom or dad, it's important for you to realize that you are more than just a parent.You are a vibrant, energetically alive adult who deserves to have a social life.In that post and in a follow-up one, I talked about my issue with her love of an occasional glass of wine and how it was really a “me problem”.